Becka Stenberg

Family dynamics refer to the ways in which family members relate to one another and are capable of change; these are rich throughout Becka Stenberg’s life and family. 

                Rebecka, better known as Becka, is the third born child in a line of seven.  She is the only girl.  Her brothers range in age from 15 to 35 with Jaxon being the oldest and Josh the youngest.  In between are Nathan 24, Becka 22, Benny 19, and Rueben 18.  Of all of these guys, she feels closest to Benny, he is her “best friend”. 

Growing up in a house full of boys was a challenge in some ways, bringing home a new boys friend for example.  There was the time Becka brought home her very first boyfriend Brandon at 16 and her brother Nathan had his own group of friends over who found it fun to harass her date.  They took off on Brandon’s snowmobile while she and Brandon waited in the entry way.  She looks back at this time now of course and laughs, knowing it was all in good fun and only due to their over protectiveness.

Then there were ways in which the rules in her house applied differently to her than they did to her brothers.  Becka states, “The rules would be upheld for them were I would tend to just get a slap on the hand.  I guess I was a little bit more spoiled that way”.

                As far as any rebellious stages, the only one in the family to really struggle was Benny who went through a brief struggle with drugs.  It was really hard for her parents to accept it.  For a long time they tried to ignore it, but once they were finally forced to come to terms with it, as a family they did and Benny has been better for a long time.

                The theme to Becka’s story that she told me was about how her family has changed and grown and yet how close they remain.